SOS Children in Rwanda Helps Families Living with HIV/AIDS

 

Madeleine and Paul are among the beneficiaries of the family strengthening programme in Rwanda. Madeleine is 40 years old. She is widowed as a result of HIV/AIDS. She has five children including three girls and two boys, with two children being infected. As for Paul, he is 64 years old. He is a widower and HIV positive. He lives with Claire, his small eight-year-old daughter who also suffers from the pandemic. Through the family strengthening programme, SOS Children's Villages helps these families strengthen their capacities so that they can cope with the disease and have an acceptable quality of life.

 

Madeleine discovered her HIV positive status in 2002 after her husband's death. One year later she also discovered that two of her children were HIV/AIDS infected. As she had no means she was unable to take care of herself and the children. "I was alone to assure our medical cares, feed the children, buy their school stationeries and pay for their school fees. I felt like I was falling into a gulf because there was nobody to assist me in this situation. I was wondering what was going to happen to us. It was really very difficult for me", she said.

 

It was so difficult that Madeleine could not work because she was ill all the time. She was living from day to day with the conviction that nothing will change in her life. "I lost hope in everything, knowing that there is no more sense in my life. I had no money and I had nobody to help me. I knew that I could never take care of my family under these circumstances. It was impossible and I did not even think of it", she said while standing up to welcome her sister-in-law who just came from the village for a family visit. The children also went to the visitor to receive the gifts that she brought from the village. Madeleine came back with a smile, knowing that her sister-in-law brought many presents.

 

"Today, my family's life has changed so much. The fact of being supported by SOS Children brought so many changes in our lives at home. Firstly, we are now able to eat well every day. The food we receive monthly is very important because without it we wouldn't be healthy and I wouldn't have the necessary force to work. Another very important thing is that the children are able to go to school again. Before, they were regularly expelled from their school for the lack of school stationeries and school fees. Today, I am relieved because there are no more concerns on that side. Their progress is good and they also have good results. We have easy and free access to HIV treatment and opportunistic infections. We are less and less ill, we are less sad now", she added.

 

Madeleine's health is improving more and more and she has been able to restart some of her activities. She was given an income generating project (selling of clothes) which allows her to gain some money enabling her to face the small daily necessities of the family. "At present, I have a lot of hope and I know that things will be getting better for me. My family's condition is no longer a major concern for me as I have a good and solid support. I thank SOS Children's Villages who think about people like us, and I hope that they will always be present to restore our hope", she said with a smile.  

 

A great relief for the families

 

Paul has been diagnosed positive at the age of sixty-four. He lives with Claire, his little eight-year-old daughter who is also infected with the pandemic. Paul's wife died two years ago with one of the children following an HIV/AIDS infection. Claire is the only remaining child. 

 

The old man is tired and looks already weakened. With his daughter, he has been living without income and practically in the open air "Life was very difficult. We had no food, no medicines, not even a house. This house practically collapsed, but we were obliged to stay inside because we did not have anywhere else to go", he said while pointing to the roof with his finger.

 

Paul and Claire have been assisted by the family strengthening programme since 2005. The first action of the programme was the reconstruction of their house with the collapsed roof and walls. Each month, they receive 10kg of beans, 10kg of maize flour, sorghum, oil, fish, salt, sugar and boxes of milk. They are also regularly provided with antiretroviral drugs and medicines for opportunistic infections. "The food that we receive is a great help for us because we can finally manage to eat every day. It is also very important because it helps us to support the medicines which often have a lot of side effects", the father said.

Twice a month co-workers from the programme visit the family for the follow-up counselling. This is to help Paul and Claire to know why and how to take the medicines every day, to understand, cope with, and accept their HIV positive status.

 

Thanks to the family strengthening programme, Claire is able to go to school again. She has never had such a chance before because there was nobody to be engaged in her schooling. "Born HIV-positive, her mother died just after she gave birth. I have always been living alone with her. We spent very difficult moments as I am poor, old and ill. I never thought that she will go to school one day because I wasn't able to satisfy her school needs. So, I thank God for the big opportunity which was offered to her, enabling her to go to school like the children of her age", Paul said by using his stick to try to stand up.

 

Paul doesn't have enough force to lead a generative income activity. Presently, his life depends on the programme and the help that he receives from generous souls. "That I am still alive today is thanks to SOS Children to whom I sincerely say thank you. You reconstructed my house, you feed me and I am currently treated free of charge. You have been giving me all that is necessary for a man to live a decent life. But, unfortunately, there is not much hope at my age because I can die any moment. All my hope is based on Claire. I know that she can survive because at present she has people who take care of her. She eats well, she goes to school and she has easy access to medical care. These are all the necessary things that she has missed since she was born", he added.

 

 

For privacy reasons, we have changed the names of the persons involved in this text

 

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